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Nails in the Fence.

仕事先で出会った、作者不詳の、ちょっと素敵なお話。
(ググってみたら、a little girlとmotherのバージョンもありました。)

"NAILS IN THE FENCE"


There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him
a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must
hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had
driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned
to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually
dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to
drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He
told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out
one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.


The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father
that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led
him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the
holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say
things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put
a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you
say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare
jewels, indeed! They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They
lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open
their hearts to us."


Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND, even if it means sending
it back to the person who sent it to you. If it comes back to you, then
you'll know you have a circle of friends.


Just one more thing...

Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole in your fence!



***
個人的には"holes in the fence"とタイトルをつけたい気がしました。
そう、一度発した言葉と言うのは、どんなに謝ってももう取り消す事はできないもの。
最近とてもやっかいだな、と思うのが、自分は親切心のつもりで言ったりやったりする事が、押し付けがましくなっていたり、あるいは自己満足に過ぎなかったりすること。そしてそれに自分が気がつかないこと。

人を傷つけたり嫌な思いにさせるのは、悪気や怒りの言葉だけではないんだよなぁ。
by eugeen | 2008-06-10 07:45 | 仕事・キャリア関連

大学院・結婚・就職・出産その後の生活@Los Angeles and Orange County, CA 最近はすっかりお家派…。


by eugeen